Coping with Relationship Anxiety

Feb 7, 2023

Shelby Cook, LISW-S

If you’re scared of getting into relationships, you may be suffering from relationship anxiety. Read this blog post to know how you can effectively cope with relationship anxiety.

A couple riding bikes and holding hands while the sun is setting.
A couple riding bikes and holding hands while the sun is setting.

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Do you feel anxious or scared about getting into relationships? Are you scared that you’ll get too involved and the other person may not retaliate with the same intensity? Is your relationship-related anxiety coming in the way of lasting relationships, and you often find yourself single? Well, you may be suffering from relationship anxiety.

It’s absolutely normal to feel some level of anxiety when getting into a relationship. The insecurity and self-doubt can make it hard for you to believe that someone has actually found you worthy of their attention and love. However, if the anxiety has started to get the better of you and it makes you flee when you start feeling that you may be getting in too deep, that’s when you need to be worried.

If you don’t do something about it, you may feel profound loneliness and other habits that can get in the way of meaningful relationships.

This blog post will help you understand relationship anxiety better so that you can cope with it better.

What is Relationship Anxiety?

It’s a form of anxiety you experience in a relationship, even when everything is going just fine. If you’ve got low self-esteem, bad experiences with past relationships, or you’re poor at communicating your feelings; you’re at a high risk of developing relationship anxiety. You’ll constantly fear that the current relationship will end up badly like all your past relationships, or that you aren’t good enough, or you’ll fail to communicate your concerns, that’ll eventually result in things going downhill. (Plumptre, 2022)

You’ll also be doubtful about your partner’s feelings towards you. You’ll want your partner to constantly reassure you how important you’re to them and how much they love you. You may even present a controlling behavior towards your partner because you’ll be scared that if things don’t go the way you want them to, your partner will leave you.

All of these feelings can be very overwhelming, and if you don’t do something about them, your partner may find it hard to stick around, and they may leave you.

Coping with Relationship Anxiety

You’ve got to learn to cope with your anxiety if you want your relationship to bloom. Here are some ways that’ll help you cope with separation anxiety effectively (Powell, 2022)

Communicate Honestly

Learn to communicate openly and honestly with your partner. If your partner knows how you feel, they’ll be able to treat you better. Expecting your partner to magically understand your fears isn’t fair to them!

Stop Worrying About the Future

Don’t stress about what will happen to your relationship in the future. If things are going well today, cherish the moment and make the most of it. Worrying about the future will only ruin the beauty of your present.

Face Your Fears

Try to identify what’s triggering your anxiety. Is it the insecurity that you aren’t good enough, or is it the fear of your partner leaving you when you’re in too deep? If you know what your fears are, you’ll be able to deal with them head-on!

Seek Therapy

See therapy if you think your anxiety is too much for you to handle on your own. A professional therapist will help you get over your relationship anxiety.

Final Words

It’s normal to doubt your worthiness, but if your partner is all appreciative of you and they go the extra mile to make you feel special, you shouldn’t let your anxiety come in the way. It may not be in your control at times, but seeking professional help can help you.


Plumptre, Elizabeth. 2022,

Powell, Alisha. 2022,