Shelby Cook, LISW-S
Are you a stay-at-home and are getting into depression because of a monotonous, tiring routine? Read this blog to know how you can cope with this form of depression.
Keywords: stay-at-home moms, depression
Are you a stay-at-home mom? The first thing we want to say to you is; you’re doing great, momma! It’s not easy being a mom, but you’re killing it!
Motherhood is one of the world’s least appreciated and most demanding jobs! There’s no 9 to 5 shift. Your job is 24 hours long. You’re responsible for looking after your kids’ health, hygiene, and development. Even after your spouse comes home after work, you may feel the pressure to ensure your house is clean and you can provide them with fresh meals.
Stay-at-home moms often lose themselves in the race to make their family happy. Depression in stay-at-home moms is very common! If you’re a stay-at-home mom and you’re afraid that you may be getting into depression, know that your family needs you and they’re well as long as you’re good!
This blog post will help you cope with stay-at-home mom depression.
Don’t Judge Yourself
People will say a lot of things to you. They’ll make you feel bad for things you can’t help. Society expects mothers to stay happy at all times. A mother who scolds her kids is labeled as a ‘bad mother’; most of the time, you let what people say affect you! If someone tells you you’re a bad mom, you accept the fact that you’re, indeed, a bad mom! This puts you at a higher risk of stay-at-home mom depression.
The first and most important tip that’ll help you cope with this form of depression is to stop judging yourself. It’s absolutely okay to lose your calm sometimes. It’s okay to leave your kids with a nanny to spend an evening with your friends. And it’s also okay to not cook meals some days and order from outside. None of this makes you any less of a mom! You’re already doing so much. The first person you need acknowledgment from is yourself (Fletcher, 2022).
Some mom influencers might make you feel like you’re the ugliest woman. They’re so dressed and look presentable all the time, even when they’re cooking. When you look at yourself, you may feel disgusted. This is one of the biggest causes of depression in stay-at-home moms. Well, let us tell you that it’s practically impossible to look like mom influencers all the time. What you see on social media isn’t reality. The reality is what you’re living. What you can do to feel better, though, is to get dressed early in the morning. Wear clean clothes and put on some makeup, and start your day feeling good about yourself!
Ask for Help
Being a mom doesn’t make you a superhero. You can get tired, exhausted, and frustrated like anyone else. You don’t have to do everything yourself every day of your life. Ask for help when you think you can’t do something. It could be from your family or friends. Don’t overwork your already overworked self. The sense of not having anyone to help can lead to depression, and this is exactly why you shouldn’t feel bad asking for help when you need it!
Depression in stay-at-home moms can affect them and their families. If you suspect you may be getting depressed from staying at home and having your life revolve around your kids and family, seek help right away, for your and your family’s sake!
Fletcher, Jenna. 2022, https://psychcentral.com/depression/stay-at-home-mom-depression